What is a Ménage a Trois? Let's first cut to the chase on this. Here is the most common definition of a Menage a Trois: An arrangement in which three people share a sexual relationship, typically a domestic situation involving a married couple and the lover of one of them.
For me, this is way too simplistic.
Having known my husband for over 27 years and his friend and my lover for 26 years, I think this kind of arrangement is deeper than this definition. At least for me.
If you were to see myself and my husband one day, then see myself and my lover the next day, there would be no way you could tell which one I was actually married too.
And I think that's the way it should be.
The relationship should be brought together, not by mere sex or sexual attraction. But by shared emotions, shared experiences, likes and dislikes, trials and tribulations. Feeling that you can't live without the other. Going through highs and lows and coming out still loving each other.
Like a traditional marriage.
The definition that is seen on the internet or in your typical dictionary is not accurate to me. That's the definition of a threesome to me. Having sex and just sharing DNA.
A Menage is a lot deeper than that. And we'll get into all the pros and cons on this site.
Who are these people that are in this type of relationship?
The mailman Your dog groomer That church lady sitting next to you on Sunday Your hairdresser/barber Your boss at work The gardener That politician that preaches family values Your best friend
It's anyone, from ALL walks of life. Democrats, Republicans. Holy Rollers and downright heathens. LOL. That shy accountant or that micromanager of a boss. ANYONE!
There is no "type" of person that gets into these types of arrangements. It all depends on their personal circumstances.
But you would be surprised all the same.
Is a Menage a Trois Right For You?
That is so up to you, your situation and how you feel about the people involved. I would never tell anyone to jump into this sort of arrangement.
This is why I have this website and blog. To discuss the dynamics, to read other peoples' stories and journeys. To dispel myths and misconceptions the best way we can. The guys here will be putting in their two cents for sure.
After you hung around here for a while, and if you're on the fence in your own relationship, this might help you along.
If you're just curious about the Menage a Trois lifestyle and want to be nosy, that's perfectly alright, you are more than welcomes here, and please ask questions.
This is a site that we show respect. I will be monitoring comments and such. Let's be respectful to others. NO DRAMA!