Hello, it’s the Hubster
I can easily pick up from last time. This is the set up I had to do, to get Mutual Friend and Bella together. But first there were a lot of emotional hurdles to jump through as you say. I wasn’t sure if I messed things up or not. I was okay with what was going on, but my Bella wasn’t so. I had to rethink this out. I realized that she had a conventional thinking of marriage. I did too. Still do. But our situation was and is much different. I never expected Mutual Friend to fall for Stephanie like that. Mutual Friend loved women, ALL women. I thought Stephanie fit in ALL women for him. This was not so. When Mutual Friend first approached me about his feelings, I was not surprised however. It made sense. And it was eating at him too. I told him not to worry about it. But he would have to convince me that he was really in love with her as I was. As you read from our prior posts, I noticed how he treated her. Just like I treated her. There was no difference. He was sincere in all his feelings, and he wasn’t trying to take her away from me. In fact, just the opposite. He wanted me to marry her. Thought she would be good for me and vice versa. We were compatible. But Stephanie didn’t want to marry anyone. So it took time to warm her up to the idea as you say. Mutual Friend still had his feelings. It wasn’t until the honeymoon that I realized they were not going to away. And it was then I decided on a very unconventional way of solving the problem. Why not Stephanie be with both of us? After thinking over the years we all spent together it made sense. I didn’t see this as her cheating on me. In fact, I didn’t see it as anything at all, except a natural transition in our relationship. The more I thought about, the more I knew it would make me happy, if Mutual Friend was happy with the woman he loved. It just happened to be my wife. So when I took that business trip and left her with Mutual Friend, I had no concerns. I expected something to happen. If they would have called me and told me they wanted to sleep together, that was okay. I didn’t see it any other way but as two people I love, who loved each other be together. I know this sounds complicated. To me it’s not. What got complicated was Stephanie’s refusal to accept the fact that she loved Mutual Friend too. So I had to have a talk with him. Talking to her was getting nowhere. I asked Mutual Friend how did he approach her. He told me. That’s where he went wrong. “Confronting her about her feelings will make her dig her heels in deeper. You need to date her, just as I did. You need to sweet talk her, you need to do everything a husband does to the point where she can’t tell you from me.” Easier said than done. Now she’s more resistant than ever. So we have to start all over. What to do? Nothing. I was willing to ride it out for as long as it took. Mutual Friend didn’t want to, but I told him, if you want her, you have too. Make up your mind. He agreed…reluctantly. This was the easy part. The hard part was making Stephanie forget everything that happened those four days and what Mutual Friend said to her. Also what I said to her. I took her to dinner. I let her know that Mutual Friend would not approach her…unless she initiated it. He would respect our marriage, but still wanted to remain friends. She was hesitant, saying that you can’t kill feelings and how about me being okay with him wanted to be intimate me. I explained again how I felt, but told her that if she was uncomfortable, then I won’t push the issue. But I was all right with it. I knew the person she was sleeping with and I know how that person felt about her. I also know how she felt about him. And so for the next four months or so, Stephanie and I lived as a nice married couple….with Mutual Friend hanging out with us every now and then. Not so much that it was noticeable, but enough that he was still part of our friendship threesome. Now to take that and make it more. We headed to San Francisco, Stephanie’s favorite place next to New York. It was just the two of us. I needed to talk to her, but not make it seem I was pushing Mutual Friend on her. I asked her if she preferred the way things were now. With Mutual Friend only coming around once a week. We all saw each other at work, but are always busy. She said it was fine, but he used to come around a lot more and she didn’t mind. I told her he was giving us space. She wondered if he would soon disappear out of our lives. She didn’t want that, she still valued his friendship and loved him. Interesting I thought. I told her that was fine, but so you want him to come over every day and just sit there and watch us in a loving relationship, without him. That hurts. He’s staying away just enough. She said he was always welcomed, and he wouldn’t be a pest. “Is it because you love him too, and you want to see him every day? That you can’t stand him being away to long, like a lover?” She didn’t answer. I had my answer. “You need to tell him.” I told her. She said her feelings would pass. Now if his feeling wouldn’t pass, how was hers different. This is where women confuse the hell out of me. I don’t have to tell you this didn’t set-up last long. So I had another plan. I went to Mutual Friend and handed the problem to him. I told him to handle it as he sees fits, because my plan wasn’t working. But let her know that I approve of everything. I don’t want her thinking that anyone was going behind anyone’s back. There was a perfect time for this plan. I needed to send Mutual Friend and Stephanie out of town for a headhunting assignment. We needed a new graphic designer. There was one in Miami. I told them to take one week for interviewing and one week for hanging out having a good time. There were a lot of shops in Miami, I was sure Stephanie would find something to do. They left and arrived later in the evening. I got them one room, one bed. Mutual Friend said he would take care of it on his end. They went to dinner to avoid any jetlag. They did some sightseeing. Once back at the hotel, Stephanie showered got into bed and fell fast asleep. Mutual Friend called me to let me know what was going on. I told him if he didn’t know how to proceed next I couldn’t help him. He was cautious that night. He slept beside her and that was it. They woke up the next morning and had breakfast in their room. Stephanie didn’t mention anything about the night before. They just talked about the interviewee and his credentials Mutual Friend would try again another night. Of course, Stephanie called me and told me how much she wished I was there and I would love this certain store and this and that. I asked her if the room was oaky, it was the only one I could get on short notice. She said it was fine and Mutual Friend was the perfect gentleman. I didn’t want to hear that. I didn’t want him to be a perfect gentleman at this point. The next few days was business. They interviewed the graphic designer and I then interviewed him over the phone. This was before Zoom. LOL My wife and best friend now had free time to enjoy themselves in Miami. And hopefully enjoy each other….if Mutual Friend played his cards right. But nothing was going to happening unless Stephanie admitted that she was attracted to Mutual Friend and was in love with him. Not just loved him. That is next week’s story....
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