It’s Hubster again! Let’s dive into this as they say.
We had our trip to San Francisco. It was fun, we did everything we wanted to do. The drive back home was quiet. Yep, we had to have a serious talk. But the problem was, I did not know where to start, or what to say. I needed to ask questions. I needed to ask Mutual Friend a lot of questions and one very important one. When we got back home, we went back to the office. We had a new commercial to do for a client, so for the first week or so, we were too busy to talk about feelings. But after that, everything needed to be how you say, headed on. Up front, all the cards on the table. I believe Bella went to the mall with some of her friends or her cousins on that day. I just know she left the house for an all-day shopping excursion….as usual. This gave me time with Mutual Friend. I drank half a bottle of wine that day. I knew this was going to open a can of worms. But I went for it. I asked Mutual Friend, if he wanted to have sex with Bella, and to be honest. He said yes, but it was more to it than that. He wanted to be her man. Of course, that was a problem. He knew that, but it didn’t change how he felt. You may be asking, was I mad for him telling me this? No. He was honest. And oddly enough I understood. So now what? I wanted to make sure of one more thing. Was this true love for Bella, or infatuation, or wanting something someone else had? I asked a very, as you say loaded question to Mutual Friend. “Would you like to sleep with her to get it her out of your system? Then I can ask her to marry me.” He looked at me shocked. Then he said very plain and honest. “No. For one, I don’t see her as just sleeping with to get out of the system. If I sleep with her it’s because I want to be with her forever. I would never do that to her, myself or you.” Okay, that cleared that up. So it was deeper than I thought. We still had a problem. I asked him what do you suggest we do? We both love her, we both can’t have her. Can we?” Mutual Friend said that would be hard. I said, actually, it wouldn’t. I even surprised myself when those words came out. But it was true. Was it so hard for both Mutual Friend and I to be with Stephanie intimately? We have known each other longer than some married couples at this point. We were inseparable. We were the best of friends. I told him, I didn’t mind him kissing her, hugging her, even sleeping (in the literal sense) with her. He would still be in our lives, nothing has changed. He said, yeah, things changed. I would be married to a woman that would never consider having sex with another man. You have a close friend that dreams about her and wants her just as much, and will always be around the two of you. She needs to know. Yes, this was hard. So marriage proposal was off for now anyway. I had to think of something else. We needed to talk to Bella We set a date. All three of us went out. So it wasn’t a date, with me and Bella, it was getting together as friends. We had dinner at her favorite place. It was dark and intimate. Everything was going smoothly until I brought up the subject of our relationship. Stephanie felt it was best that she didn’t date either one of us. This is what I was afraid of. I told her no. This could be worked out. She didn’t think so. Mutual Friend assured her that it was okay. She should go ahead and marry me, he was okay with it, in fact he insisted. He said I have never been happier, that she made me happy and that he was happy for us—really. I knew part of this was a lie. I didn’t know what Mutual Friend was up too. Back at home. Bella asked me if he meant what he said. I couldn’t really answer that. I was confused! But I told Bella, if he said it, he means it. She then surprised me, she would accept my proposal. I could have fainted. I told Mutual Friend. He was genuinely happy Of course Bella had some rules. Our engagement would be long, a year. She would not live with me. I hated this already, but willing to go along with it. So she moved out and went back to her condo. Okay, that’s fine, a year will go by fast. And it did. Her mother and stepdad were getting things ready for the big day. Bella had a custom made wedding dress. Mutual Friend was my Best Man of course. Through the whole year however, I have been thinking our relationship over. When I say our, I mean all three of us. No matter what, Bella was marrying Mutual Friend too. May not have been consummated, but she was his too. This love triangle was not put on the bookshelf, as they say. It was still there. What we had to do was try to figure out what needed to be done. I and Bella were the only ones that could make the decisions. For the first time Mutual Friend had no say so. This was going to be an interesting wedding and honeymoon. Fast forward again. Four months before the big day. I had to talk to Bella. All three of us were pretending everything was okay. I finally told Stephanie everything that Mutual Friend and I have been going over things. She was mad at me, and she had reason to be. I told her I loved Mutual Friend and didn’t want to see him hurting, but I loved her too and didn’t want to be without her. Mutual Friend didn’t want to be without us. She didn’t know the answer to the situation. But I did. I told her to hear me out and don’t judge me. I said if she and Mutual Friend wanted to have a day or a week alone, they had my permission. I know some of you fainted right now. But if you have been following this blog, you know this was only natural, there wasn’t anything odd. And of course, I would not mind. I would leave town, and let them be alone. Stephanie was appalled as you might say. I told her don’t be angry. To think about it, really think about. Could it be any other way? He loves you, and I told her that I knew she loved him. I see the way she looks at him, how she laughs with him or at him when he is being a joker. The way they hug each other and hold hands. You could switch Mutual Friend with me. You could not tell the difference. I told her this. She finally admitted it and this is why we should not marry. She could not have both of us. No, not morally maybe. (but who’s to say). But we will always have Mutual Friend in our lives. He will not leave us, it will be almost the same. We’re still the three Musketeers. We had little time before the wedding. She needed to think. So she did what she did best when she needed to think of something heavy and life changing. She left the country. Her story next……..
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Gwen
5/14/2020 07:59:23 am
Well now that was....deep!!! Stephanie...girl do not have me waiting to long to read the next post😉
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5/14/2020 08:00:29 am
Wow! This is so fascinating getting this from your POV. The depth and breath of your devotion to Stephanie and M and them to each other and to you is beautiful and should give everyone hope. Love does indeed exist, provides so much strength and it can be all inspiring.
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Julia Landry
5/14/2020 08:10:28 am
This makes me sad for all of you! I'm rooting for all of you and your happiness. Can't wait for Stephanie's story, she's caught between a rock and a hard place. I'm jealous she has such devotion in her life but I don't know if I could deal with such a situation.
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Mary Menages
5/14/2020 08:25:37 am
Now we are getting there. lol
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Joy
5/14/2020 08:58:32 am
This had to be rough for you, Steohanie. I'm sure your mind was all over the place.
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Katherine
5/14/2020 09:39:01 am
WOW!!! This was very deep for all three of you. So many emotions for all three and what is so touching is all three are thinking of the others happiness. I can see why you three are meant to be with one another. I love y’all!!!
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Evelyn Regan
5/14/2020 03:02:16 pm
Hubster, after reading your narrative I can almost visualize the three of you, then you and Bella having this conversation.The" morally and ethically" aspect was probably what challenged Bella, as she didn't know if she could handle it. What I get from this is that y'all were able to communicate each other's feelings and desires and come to a conclusion that was beneficial to all three. Now, Bella, please don't make us wait too long for your POV.
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