This is Mutual Friend, putting in my two cents as mio bellissimo would say.
I will move past 9/11. We were all traumatized, especially Stephanie, but Giuseppe and I helped her and got her back to normal. Now my problems started. Giuseppe was trying to get on her good side as they say. He was with her no matter. If she called him at 2 o’clock in the morning, he would drive to her. She was working in medical and working from home doing export. But if she was going out to lunch, he would drop everything. I was jealous but not in the usual way, I understood their closeness. She knew him two years before me. That is a lot of time to form something. I wanted that too. I had feelings for Stephanie. I will be honest, at first it was physical. She seemed open to things, but she put her foot down as you say when it came to Giuseppe and I. We were just friends. She would never be with one of us. She didn’t want to come between our friendship. I could understand that—to a point. You see I developed feelings for her too, and not just physical. I through the years, learned her sarcasm, cynicism, her spoiled ways, her childlike personality. I loved it and I loved her. And I told Giuseppe. He wasn’t moved. He said let her decide, but it wasn’t looking good for him either. Someone else was in the picture and they were over 7500 miles away. It was an old boyfriend, an Israeli soldier. She was still wearing his Star of David necklace around her neck. She lived in Israel in the early 90s for about eight months and that’s how they hooked up. He taught her Hebrew and everything. It was the year 1995 when Yitzhak Rabin was assassinated. She was at that rally, the soldier was a guard. She can tell you about it in another blog, but that’s when they became really close. They were broken up after she came back to the States then, but they still had something. Giuseppe and I were not happy. We decided to work together on this. True, she might only end up with one of us, IF she decided to date one of us. But at least she wasn’t dating him. I was to go to Israel to check this guy out. Then inform him that Stephanie was in a serious relationship and that the reason she didn’t say anything was because she didn’t want to hurt his feelings. Again, we didn’t think this through, but it was all we had. We told Stephanie of my trip, telling her that we had a new client that needed special effects for a commercial in Israel. I was to go and meet with them. Stephanie became alarmed. She didn’t want me to go, not after the attacks, and she knew Israel was dangerous already. She went every year since 1986. But after 9/11 she was having doubts. She begged me not to go and to email this new client, anything but don’t go. She started crying saying she couldn’t afford to lose me, that she cared deeply for me and that she wouldn’t know how her life would be without me. DAMN! Why are you telling me this now! Giuseppe and I looked at each other. We felt like shit because I wasn’t going over there for what she thought. But I found out something. She cared and loved me. Okay, maybe not like that. But it was something. I wasn’t just her guy pal that went shopping with her. The plan was canceled. Giuseppe continued to be at Stephanie’s beck and call as they say. I decided I could be her servant too. When she had woman’s issues, I did her housework, and shopped for her. I made her appointments for her business. I made sure her car was running properly. I took her cats to the vet when needed. Giuseppe did things for her too, but he also bought her things. Shoes, handbags jewelry. I did not go this way because I did not want to look so obvious. Then one day, someone broke a car window of one of her neighbors. No one knew who it was. Then it happened again a week later. Then another week. Then hers was broken. That was not cool. Giuseppe did some detective work and found out who it was. Some creep, and he was only doing the women’s cars. He needed a lesson. I was more than happy to give it to him. Giuseppe would be my look out. Let’s just say that there was a new vacancy in Stephanie’s condo complex the following week. It was then clear to both of us that we loved Stephanie. But it was frustrating because she put up the “Friend” Wall. So Giuseppe and I did what guys do—we dated other women. They were empty dates, with empty women. They were not fun, and if they were fun they had to get high or drunk. That’s what we loved about Stephanie. She was fun and crazy naturally. Sex? It was sex. You stick it in and she comes that’s it. I was getting depressed. Giuseppe was getting mad. He could not understand what the big deal was. We could all still be friends. I would not let Giuseppe go if he dated Stephanie, and I would never come between them. She was worried for nothing. She did not know how strong our friendship was. So we plowed into our work to get our minds off things. We got very busy. So busy that we needed Stephanie’s help. She quit her temp job at hospital and worked from home on her export and with us. She tried to convince us to hire more women on the job—besides her. Giuseppe wasn’t having it. Too many hormones and cattiness. I agreed. I didn’t have time for petty women. We got into heated arguments about this. But Giuseppe won, he was a private foreign registered company. He could do as he pleased. Months passed. Giuseppe wasn’t getting anywhere still with Stephanie. They went out on dates if that’s what you want to call it. But he wasn’t spending the night. A “Thank You” and a peak on the cheek was what he got. I was happy. It was my turn. I told her that maybe the reason she was not seeing Giuseppe as a boyfriend is because she met him in a friend situation. But me, when I met her I was already attracted to her, not as a friend but as a lover. So it would make more sense if she dated me, and kept Giuseppe as a good friend. She wasn’t going for that either. I never met a good American Girl before, until her. She didn’t even go to church every Sunday! Giuseppe and I were stuck. But then a miracle. Although I was not happy for myself about this, I was happy that my best friend was happy. But it was strange how it all went down. I will let Stephanie take it from here
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Katherine
7/13/2019 01:14:08 pm
I adore y’all! Knowing there are still men out there who respect a woman keeps the hope up in those who have yet to find what the three of you have. Thank you for opening up your part Mutual Friend. Stephanie is blessed to have you both in her live. Can’t wait to here more.
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7/13/2019 02:04:56 pm
Hello M.F. I chuckled through most of your narrative. I loved hearing the story from your perspective. And I am glad you took care of business in the neighborhood. And the way you see Stephanie is right out of a romance book. It is a no brainer why Stephanie writes with passion she's surrounded by it. The thing about you guys is at the core is the bond of love. She's been a friend for years and as I told G, I knew much of her side I love hearing about things his and yours too.
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Denise
7/13/2019 02:29:28 pm
I have enjoyed this blog since I started reading it. I like how I get the story from all 3 of your perspectives and how you and hubby treat your love.
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Sonya Debnam
7/13/2019 08:33:12 pm
OMG! I Loved this! The telling of this is just like a book and hard to believe, but I'm so happy it's real. What lucky and blessed family you are. That the three of you found each other gives me hope😍
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7/14/2019 02:10:57 am
I loved the story from the point of view of a guy!!! Thanks!!!
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Julia Landry
7/14/2019 08:16:30 am
You are blessed to have each other in your lives! Many would love to have such a relationship with such trust. M.F., I'd love to hear how you handled the neighborhood menace! That's what every relationship needs, someone who will do a little extra when necessary. I'm glad you guys are happy! My old ass might be a little jealous!
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Gwen
7/14/2019 11:48:36 am
Okay so I am all for reading the events as they unfolded from all parties. Like I said before, your story would make an excellent book. The journey to where you are right now is very interesting...looking forward to the next post.
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Micheline
7/14/2019 04:10:41 pm
I love seeing all sides of this beautiful affair of the heart. Such love and respect.it shines through as much for Stephanie, but also a strong love with G. And MF. Thank you for allowing us to see aspects of a very personal relationship, that obviously radiates love
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Lisa
7/14/2019 09:26:17 pm
Awww. My new best friend. You and your shanngains(I cant spell) crack me up.
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